Dating a fat person
More specifically, my sister said: The one thing this particular round of Family Feud does correctly is summarize many of the unfortunate myths our society perpetuates about fat people—specifically, fat men—and relationships.
This myth is something we see play out throughout the various facets of American culture, whether it’s movies or politics or pop culture.This survey answer works in tandem with an answer given by one of the contestants that ended up not being on the board: the fat man in question is good at sex.Steve Harvey, in his “comedic” fashion, acts as if this is the most outrageous answer in the world, as the other contestants and the audience laugh in agreement with the host.About a month ago, one of my sisters tagged me in a video she recorded of Family Feud—a game show where two families compete for a cash prize by trying to find the most popular answers to a variety of questions.On the episode of the daytime game show she recorded, host and comedian Steve Harvey asks the contestants to answer a rather loaded statement: “Name a reason a woman might decide to be with a chubby [or fat] man.” This, as one might imagine, ends up being a rather humorous round for the contestants, Steve Harvey, and the audience.With this myth, we have an example of how people attempt to take the agency away from fat people, and really people in general.
The assumption behind this myth is twofold, where people will only be attracted to or seek relationships with a) people who look like them, or b) people who society deems as attractive. What is most directly shown in this survey answer is the idea that fat people will only be able to have relationships with other fat people, whether it’s because they only find other fat people attractive or because that’s all they can get, in the most brutal of terms.
This blatant objectification of fat men’s bodies is the result of what the above myths have done to remove any other positive aspects of what we think of when we look at fat men.
The only redeeming quality our culture puts forth for fat men—if they aren’t rich or powerful, and not even 100% of the time—is that they’re like fluffy teddy bears as opposed to, you know, human beings with other desires.
This myth is much less often applied to skinny or “fit” men, unless of course that person is known to have money or power.
But it’s much easier for people to understand two skinny/traditionally attractive people being together because they’re attracted to each other than when a skinny/traditionally attractive person chooses to be with a fat man for other, less superficial reasons.
This kind of thought is extremely damaging for a lot of fat men, placing all of their value as people into the money or power they may or may not have.