Dating a part time father
They had been dating for a little over two months and she was head over heels in love with him.But she began questioning their relationship when her daughter Baylie, age eight, starting complaining about Kevin coming over – especially when his nine-year-old son, Ryan, came along for the visit.
It can cause anguish for everyone – especially children who are probably holding on to the idea that their parents will eventually get back together.Adopt realistic expectations about your children’s acceptance of your new partner.Just because you are enthralled with this person, it doesn’t mean that your kids will share your enthusiasm.Consider the amount of time since your divorce, the age of your children, and the level of commitment to your partner.Waiting to introduce your kids to a love interest will pay off for everyone in the long run.It may take them time to accept a new person in their life.
For example, Caroline, a 36-year-old teacher, described her new partner Kevin as thoughtful, affectionate, and a great match for her.
In sum, the key to successful parenting post-divorce is helping your kids heal from your breakup and introducing them to a new love too soon might complicate, delay, or damage this process.
You can simply tell your kids that you’re going out with a new friend and that’s enough information.
Don’t be surprised if your children reject your new partner at first.
Some kids express anger or defiance and may even threaten to move out – or go to live with their other parent full-time.
She paused and said “not really” and so I asked her to write down a list of pros and cons for her homework assignment.