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Dating for aspies

" "Does anyone ever ask you if you are a sociopath?" Even from the people who are accepting of who I am, a lot of them can't believe that I am a sociopath, or they sort of pretend I'm not by imagining emotions or empathy where there are none. I am high-functioning and take pleasure in being exceptionally considerate, so it is not too difficult to believe that I am normal.

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The drawback is that some faces are easy to work out by elimination, and many voices can be guessed from the words spoken; but overall, it’s an interesting assessment.Broadly speaking, they probably do give a good idea of whether or not to pursue an assessment, but don’t let them become a source of anxiety either way.Asperger’s Quotient Test The simplest online test, and the one many people will find first, is the fifty-question Asperger’s Quotient (AQ) test, based on Simon Baron-Cohen’s contentious the Extreme Male Brain theory.You can also get the AQ test as an i Phone app, and have loads of fun testing other people.It has helped me to raise awareness amongst my NT friends, because while many people hear of a particular aspie trait and say, “oh, I do that kind of thing all the time,” this test shows them all the things they don’t do.I don't think a narcissist would ever reveal himself, mainly because he probably doesn't think there is anything to reveal.

For sociopaths I think revealing oneself is sort of like revealing a secret identity for a superhero -- generally not a good idea, but sometimes unavoidable.

The Reading the Mind in the Eyes test, which shows thirty close-up photographs of people’s eyes only.

Many of the pictures were stereotypical, and thus easy to guess, but it should give an overall idea of ability.

(Musings of an Aspie has written a balanced review of it here.) Probably the most popular feature of the rdos test is the results graph, which provides a useful visual reference to those of us who like that sort of thing.

It does, however, generate another note of caution: do not be tempted to compare your graph with known aspies, and worry that you’re not aspie enough; the range of bone-fide-aspie results is huge.

I feel like narcissists deny deny deny when they are confronted with their identity.