Dating for overweight people
Connect with it, and you will exude it." We all make assumptions about what other people find attractive, but often, those assumptions needlessly limit us.
If prospective suitors are going to be uninterested based on your weight alone, it's best to eliminate them early in the process so that your time isn't wasted."Even if you're new to the body acceptance game, there's probably some part of you that you like.Maybe it's your eyes, or your hands, or your cleavage.Weight/body type is often an important part of one's matching criteria.It is also something that people don't easily change their minds on."In order to have confidence, you have to accept yourself for the beautiful person you are," says Marie Denee, the plus-size fashion and style blogger who founded The Curvy Fashionista blog, which provides fashion, lifestyle, and beauty tips and tricks specifically for plus size women. "Every time (and I mean time) you catch your reflection in the mirror or a window or whatever, affirm to yourself: I am beautiful," she suggests. Try mixing things up by adding in other phrases, such as "I am sexy/gorgeous/fabulous," if you like.
"If you keep this practice going, not only will you believe it, but you'll exude it," says Poretsky, who teaches the "Body Love Makeover Attraction Program" course for overweight women who would like to date more and feel more attractive.
Plus-sized daters should "have unshakeable confidence," advises Rachel Russo, a New York City-based dating, relationship and image coach ( "The overweight single must not be apologetic for his/her weight but should rather embrace it, and realize [that a person's] weight does not have to impact [someone's] self-worth — and the ability to love and be loved." But how does someone gain that confidence in a culture that tells us "thin is in" everywhere you look? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but more importantly, you have to accept yourself for who you are — curves, love handles and all!
We've culled ideas from experts on body image, self-esteem and plus-size fashion and compiled their seven best success strategies for curvy daters. " Holistic health counselor Golda Poretsky agrees, and she advises overweight daters to "make friends with their reflections." How?
"For thousands of years, women of all shapes and sizes were honored as embodying the divine feminine in the world.
Connect with that heritage — and the heritage of big, beautiful women in recent history — to connect with the true beauty within and without.
Accentuate that part with makeup, clothing, jewelry or shimmery body lotion." Russo suggests that the "overweight dater should take the focus off his/her weight and onto style and fashion sense.