Divorced women and dating and trust
Instead of those flags just sitting there while you ignore them, let me wave a few of them for you.1.If your man is living in his mother’s house for more than a couple of months — I give a small grace period — RED FLAG.2.
He must use whatever tactics are at his disposal to get the go-ahead for intimacy from a woman. Some women are notorious for turning a blind eye to the warning signs, even if they’re staring them right in the face.Just don’t do it to the point that he comes to expect it.What you’re ultimately trying to accomplish is to show him that you’re a very enterprising woman, which reveals to him that you’re more of a benefit to his life than a liability.Granted, I’d have to give the brother an “A” for style and originality, but when I said to her, “Wow, he must be paid! He’s living with his mother right now, but he just really likes me.” All I could think was, 'This fool must have fallen and bumped her head.I understand it may have been a flattering gesture, but don’t reward a man with attention and praise for foolishness.' Now, if he has no problem affording lavish gifts, that’s another story.As a matter of fact, that’s usually the joker who can’t rub two nickels together.
What’s wrong with the guy in jeans and a T-shirt, driving a Camry, checking his Timex to see exactly when his check is going to hit the bank? Never allow yourself to be impressed by a man’s depreciating assets (cars, clothes, expensive rental apartment). If you’re going to be impressed with material things, at least be smart enough to start with his net worth. I had a woman tell me how flattered she was when her boyfriend booked her a posh hotel room, filled it from corner to corner with freshly cut roses, and had an expensive dress lying across the bed just as a surprise to show her how much he cared about her.
If he drives an expensive car, but rents an apartment — RED FLAG.3. If your man wears more than one ring per hand, more than one bracelet per wrist, and more than one necklace per neck — RED FLAG.5.
If he is always the one who’s overdressed for the occasion — RED FLAG.6.
When Michael Lockwood was a single divorced dad, he'd often write down dating advice that he planned to give to his daughters when they grew up.
Years later, he's turned those thoughts and advice into a book "Women Have All the Power, Too Bad They Don't Know It." Don’t be impressed by the unimpressive.
If your man is constantly spending money on you without regard to price (i.e., clothes, trips, jewelry) and he can’t afford it — RED FLAG.7.